The Influencing Model®
The awakening and remembering of influencing others, when woven with The Influence Model®, invites a deep, conscious exploration of how we shape the thoughts, feelings, and actions of others—and why. As we remember our role as co-creators of reality, the art of influence shifts from control to conscious resonance.
Awakening Influence Through The Four Influence Styles
Each of the four Influence Styles—Persuading, Asserting, Bridging, and Attracting—can be seen as both practical tools and spiritual archetypes. Used unconsciously, they can manipulate or distort. But when awakened and integrated, they become channels for authentic leadership, soul-to-soul impact, and transformation.
1. Persuading Influence Style – The Voice of Clarity
Essence: Convincing through logic, reason, or compelling evidence.
Awakened Expression:
The Persuader becomes the Clarity Bringer—someone who offers insight that dissolves confusion. They appeal not just to the mind, but to the deep logic of the soul.
Uses truth as a mirror, not a weapon
Speaks to the inner knowing of others, awakening discernment
Offers vision and pathways to alignment
Challenges illusion with respectful conviction
Unawakened trap: Manipulating facts to convince or dominate.
2. Asserting Influence Style – The Flame of Integrity
Essence: Stating what one believes firmly and directly, grounded in confidence.
Awakened Expression:
The Asserter becomes the Boundary Holder—an anchor of self-trust and sovereignty who models truth in action.
Inspires others to own their power
Models healthy boundaries and self-worth
Embodies courageous authenticity, even in discomfort
Invites others to rise into their own inner authority
Unawakened trap: Becoming forceful, rigid, or overpowering.
3. Bridging Influence Style – The Weaver of Connection
Essence: Creating influence through empathy, collaboration, and shared understanding.
Awakened Expression:
The Bridger becomes the Heart Connector—a sacred space-holder who dissolves separation and invites communion.
Builds trust and belonging through presence
Listens deeply and mirrors back others’ truth
Facilitates harmony across differences
Channels oneness through relationship
Unawakened trap: People-pleasing, over-accommodating, losing self in others.
4. Attracting Influence Style – The Magnetic Frequency
Essence: Influencing by embodying a vision, value, or vibration others want to follow.
Awakened Expression:
The Attractor becomes the Living Transmission—someone whose presence alone invites others to remember their own light.
Radiates authentic alignment and embodiment
Leads not by effort, but by energetic integrity
Magnetizes those ready to awaken
Inspires rather than persuades
Unawakened trap: Seeking attention, performing, or relying on image over essence.
The Remembering: Influence as a Soul Tool
When you awaken to your influence, you no longer ask:
“How do I get what I want?”
You ask:
“How do I become who I am, so others remember who they are?”
Each style becomes a living instrument for soul work:
Persuading brings clarity and mental illumination
Asserting anchors truth and self-respect
Bridging heals disconnection and nurtures trust
Attracting transmits frequency and awakens potential
You learn to switch styles intuitively—based not on strategy, but on soul guidance and relational presence.
Final Illumination: You Influence by What You Are
You influence not by what you say, but by what you embody.
Not by pushing, but by vibrating truth.
As you remember this, the Influence Model® becomes more than a tool.
It becomes a sacred geometry of relational awakening.
Each moment is a choice:
Will I lead from fear or love?
From control or coherence?
From ego or essence?
When you choose consciously—
your influence becomes a gift, a guide, and a gateway to truth.